Tuesday, May 7, 2013
Wednesday, April 3, 2013
Long time...
So Easter was completely UNeventful. I was sick so we stayed home. Kaipo was at work so there was no a alternative for the kids. I was so busy with all the 'parents going on a mission' stuff I didn't even do easter baskets. I am a lame mom. So we will be doing all the fun easter stuff this week end.
We are getting yet another dog. She is really little and her name is Yoyo - currently. She is a maltese, yorkie mix. She was originally rescued by a friend of Kaipo's. I guess she is a little skittish - We are hoping to love that out of her. I guess she is really small. I am thinking 4 - 5 lbs. maybe smaller. I am excited. I know we do this all the time, we adopt a dog and then let them go. I can't promise that won't happen again. I will say that I will try harder to deal with the hard stuff as well as the good. I miss sophie - our last little dog. She was a sweetheart and we all miss her - in some ways I wish I had never let her go - but she is with someone who needed her. So - we'll try again. The Kids won't know till monday - so keep it on the DL ;)
The kids are having their spring break this week, I wish we had had money to do something fun - but Kaipo wasn't even home so what can you do? The kids have been taking it easy, hanging out with friends etc. I am so grateful that spring is finally here. The grass is greening up and the trees are starting to get their leaves, I love it, Winter is so hard for me, I love spring all the more - even with allergies!!
We are all working on getting back to church - that's a long hard road. I have good days and not so good days - just like everyone else. I resolve to do better every week and sometimes it just seems harder. It's hard work. I am looking forward to General Conference - I will have to watch on the computer - since we don't have normal TV. That will be ok though. I can watch at my own pace and take notes if I want to. I can also listen on the radio - we still have access to that. I tried getting one of those digital converter boxes and an antenna for regular TV - but I haven't been able to get it all to work, it says the signal is too weak. So I dunno - I guess we will make do.
Well that's all for tonight.
I love you Mom and Dad, I hope you had a good day - we'll talk to you soon.
Love Jules
Thursday, September 6, 2012
So I'm sick, I have a nasty cold. I picked up Kaipo from the airport today and he has been so sweet. He's making me stay in bed, he says he's got the kids and he is going to make chicken noodle soup for dinner. I am so grateful for this beautiful man I married, he loves me so much. I am incredibly lucky to have Kaipo as my husband. He is my everything.
The kids started school this week and so far it seems good. Kahelelani is on aderol for ADD and it makes her shakey by the afternoon, so we have to live with that because the aderol helps her focus and she needs that. Food helps, but she doesn't crave it so she has to force herself to eat so the shaking will go away. One of the reasons I am staying home right now is to make sure she eats and help her when she gets home from school.
Londen is in highschool now and its nice having the schedule split up into A day and B day, he gets overwhelmed easily and I hope this will help.
I am watching my sister's kids and I love it. I can't get enough of my neices and nephews. I also love seeing my sister more.
I'm finding that having teenagers is quite the challenge. I didn't realize how hard it would be. Every day is an emotional battle, and the constant questioning of my self is exhausting. I just hope we all make it through this, it's crazy.
Monday, September 6, 2010
Back to school update
School is back in session and I am taking some time off of work, it's been very peaceful around here.
Londen is in 8th grade. He seems to be on top of things even though it's a little harder than last year.
He recently started a martial arts class. I am excited for him. He really likes it so far. We continue to have a house full of boys. They are good kids and I enjoy having them around.
Kelani is in 6th grade and doing pretty good. She has had some drama, but she was able to work it out on her own - I was pleased, and proud of her. She is still doing gymnastics and loving it. She is forming her own sense of style and she is just so cute.
Kaip is still working out of state, it has it's advantages and disadvantages, just like any other career, We miss him when he's gone and love him when he's home.
I am just enjoying some time off work. My Jeannette and I are working on some plans to start a business. More on that later.
My brother Dan is living with us right now. We get to see his son Oliver every week, so cute and so fun.
Trying to find peace and enjoy life. Gratitude is the key I think. I do best when I am looking at all I have to be grateful for.
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Hey World... My kids make mistakes !!!
As a parent I tend to get wrapped up in my children's mistakes. I take responsibility for them, I feel bad about them, and I take it all personally. I forget that they make mistakes to learn, just like I do. Mistakes are not bad things, they are part of life and they are the best teachers. I realized this past week that it's not about me, I need to stand back and let the natural effects of mistakes and consequences take place. I can be there to talk it through and love my children despite their mistakes.
As a child I remember feeling stupid when I made a mistake. I remember feeling like I needed to be perfect and I just wasn't. I even assumed that I wasn't worth loving because I wasn't perfect. Most of the time when I made a mistake and got in trouble I would think things like "why do I even try" "maybe I should run away" "I should just give up now cuz I'm never gonna make it". It's important to me that my kids don't feel like giving up on life when they make mistakes. It's part of life and it's an important part of life. All of the real lessons I have learned in my life have been a result of one mistake or another. I tend to beat myself up when I make mistakes which is a natural reaction I think for most people. The real question I forget to ask myself is this - What did I learn and how will I do it differently next time? I also forget to ask my kids that. I always tell them that I love them and that I love them no matter what mistakes they make.
On this last incident with Kelani, I found my self being angry at and hurt by her because of how it made me feel and how I might look to someone else(?)! Well guess what... IT's NOT ABOUT ME!!! I don't have to allow myself to be embarrassed when my child is living and learning. And if someone wants to judge me because of the choices or mistakes my kids make, Well I feel sorry for them because they don't get it. We are supposed to make mistakes. It's part of life, if it were possible to achieve perfection in this life, there would be no need for the Atonement. Jesus Christ was the only man who ever lived who didn't make any mistakes. What in the hell was I doing thinking I could be perfect or expecting for one second for my kids to make all the right choices.
Sometimes I just need a smack upside the head - even if it is from myself.
Thanks for reading, I hope my mistake can help you in some way. It has opened my eyes a little wider.
Saturday, May 8, 2010
Mother's Day
How will we work out seeing both moms? (grandma & nana)
What should I get them?
Should I give the kids some money, or let them use their imagination? I wonder if they will bring my breakfast in bed?
Maybe this year I will just show my kids how grateful I am to be a mom. I'll do stuff for them.
Should I go to church? I know there are lots of mom's who don't go to church on mother's day because inevitably you walk away feeling as though you haven't done enough for your kids.
Yes, I think staying home and focusing on the mothers in my life and enjoying my kids for the day, that sounds like a good mother's day to me.
Mother's day is like my birthday. I try so hard not to have expectations, but I think they are built in. I tell my self that it doesn't matter. Then I hear something that someones kids or husband has done for them and I think either - Wow, I'm glad my husband isn't like that, or Wow, why doesn't my family do stuff like that.
The other approach is to take matters into my own hands and tell them what would be nice. I just don't want to have to ask, it takes the spontaneity and the sincerity out of it.
I am really going to try this year to just let it be what it is. Just another Sunday. I love my kids and I am so glad to be a mom, weather I'm good at it or not, I still love doing it.








